Giving yourself permission to be on the outside who it is you feel you are on the inside requires courage, commitment, stamina and a deep desire for authenticity.
It’s hard to break free of the lies we told about ourselves before we knew they were lies (think about that). We are constantly shifting and evolving, yet other people see us as the same as we’ve always been unless we let them know. But coming out in this way is scary; it means risking reproach, and we’re usually fragile in our newness.
I have been here time and time again. Probably 10 times in my 20’s alone. I wince through it every time – awkward but resolute in letting myself be seen. Those of you who knew me as a cigarette-smoking dj are probably shocked by the direction my life has taken. Those who knew me as a bitchy too-skinny college girl probably felt the same way when I became a dj. I can still feel the pain in my heart of people’s perceptions clearly not matching up to who I felt I was. The friends I lost by boldly being myself.
For this reason I try my best not to judge other people when I see them acting differently than they used to, on social media or otherwise, because I know most of these people are fighting for their internal freedom. My judgment definitely won’t help them shine, thrive or succeed.
We are all, in one form or other, trying to figure out who we are and how we best fit into this world. We are all after the truth of our own souls… some of us taking some big risks while we are doing it. If you’re like me, you feel like you’re living your life on the edge of a cliff most of the time.
The bottom line is that the most loving thing we can do for one another on our mutual journey to our deepest truth – our deepest us – is be open, supportive and accepting. To hold the highest vision for one another, regardless of whether we understand or concur with each other’s immediate choices. We are all in this life thing together…
I am only proposing that we act like it.